Monday Morning Blue Skies

Whoever said you can't buy happiness forgot little puppies.
Gene Hill

Today I woke up with a choice: I can frame my day as positive or negative. I choose to create a positive reality.

We cannot always avoid pain but we can avoid suffering. I don't particular like to suffer. I find it very uncomfortable. Not only is suffering uncomfortable it interferes with my life. So I make choices to look for the good in my day and in others and to let the negative slide off my reality into oblivion. This is not the same old is the glass half empty, half full routine but more a realization that I can toss my garbage in the garbage bag where it belongs to be set outside on the curb for pick-up by the cosmic trash pick-up.

I remember a book from years and years ago that was called Garbage in! Garbage out! While I can't remember who wrote the book and basically cannot remember what was in the book, I remember the title. It stuck with me as cliché in my brain pool because it represents what we can do with the issues in life that muddy up the waters. The quicker that we process the garbage in our lives and move it out the less stinky and the less dirty will be our realities.

So it is Monday morning and the beginning of my week. I can have those "Monday morning blues straight from Sunday blues" or I can choose to focus on the blue skies of unlimited potential. And, thus I am framing my day and my week and my life.

Everybody in the "New Age" movement of motivation and inspiration will throw ideas at you about manifesting, creating your reality, and lots of really nice buzz words but when you get right down to it, no one is saying how to really do the work that it takes to be happy. That is right. There are no explanations about how to go about the business of reclaiming your right to pursue happiness. Choosing to be happy as a long lasting expression of life is for me to be content all the time but to be really energized at certain times with the excitement of new ideas. I like to have my passions evoked with intensity. I want to be awake while I am alive. I will have enough time to sleep when I am dead.

Learning to be happy is a habit. Perpetual behaviors emotional or brushing your teeth are habits. Changing habits changes the way we react to or act on our lives. And, if you change one habit, it will have an effect on your other habits. It is not easy to change habits because the mind has a tendency to get into a routine and resists change. Some people are in the habit of being negative and getting them to change to a habit of being happy can be very difficult. In fact, one of the biggest personality traits that is hardest to change is an attitude of optimism or an attitude of pessimism. And, the truth is only you can change a habit in you. And, if you change a habit in you, it has a ripple effect through your whole personality and attitude toward life and it has an impact on the people around you.

In family therapy, it would be impossible to change the behaviors of everyone in the family dynamic. However, if the therapist can find a fulcrum to shift the balance within the family changes can be made. It is easier if all the family is involved but sometimes the rest of the members do not want to cooperate. So sometimes it is necessary to do individual therapy and support change with an individual in the collective which will impact and create the fulcrum for change that the family needs.

This can apply to the individual as well. If you can find a fulcrum with in your group of personality traits and behaviors where you can activate the energy of the change process it will create a temporary state of chaos or change which will eventually populate through out the personality and create positive changes. The point here is that one has to be willing enough to experience the discomfort of chaos in order to enable one to achieve a new sense of awareness and power to control one's expression in one's manifest reality.

There is little chaos and big chaos. Little chaos is much easier to handle and it helps one develop the traits that enables one to be more adept when the big whirlwinds of change occur - sometimes in what appears to be random-less and pattern-less ways. Taking charge of your life means becoming a chaos warrior and that takes practice and developing skills that enable you to become more and more an expert in manifesting your preferred reality. The more that we routinize our daily manifestations, the more efficient we will become in creating new and needed behaviors to make challenges to grow and change a faster and easier process.

To begin to enhance your chaos management skills, you need to make a choice to change one small habit at a time. You don't all of a sudden decide to loose 50 pounds, stop smoking, quit drinking, and walk five miles a day this morning. You choose for the next week or month to create one new behavior that makes your life better. Than next week or next month you choose to create one new behavior that makes your life better. After a while, it will become automatic to look at behaviors and reactions that are creating discomfort or dysfunction in your life and make changes of the small constantly so that you do not have to be driven into a state of extreme chaos because something happens that makes you have to hold on to the structure of your life to keep it from blowing apart. You will have developed emotional and spiritual flexibility to be able to move with the winds of chaos rather than have to fight from being completely destroyed and having to build who you are back up from the roots.

Start today! Just work on creating the habit of taking a few moments every morning to frame your day so that your mindset is either positive or negative. Create an external cue for you that will remind you through the day that you choose to approach all challenges, opportunities and events in the most positive manner possible. After a month, you will find that approaching the day with a sense of excitement, expectation, and desire for the best to manifest will have become a habit. How long it will take will depend on your individual personality and where you find you in the day-to-day expression of being in the world. Some will find it takes longer because they have spent years or even a lifetime expecting the other shoe to fall. Some will find it takes only a week or two because they have come to expect that even in the worse circumstances there is something positive to be learned. As you create this one routine of positive expectancy the habit of reacting in a proactive way to the events and feelings of your life will become stronger until when you are hit with a big crisis you will all of a sudden realize that you deal with it with quicker and more intense awareness and have developed complex skills that empower you to expand your possibilities in all areas of life.

While we write in Possibility People that we change the world one person at a time starting with you. You change yourself one moment at a time beginning with now. Expand your possibilities today and begin to frame your day and you will soon come to actively frame your life.

The Possibility People: http://manifestreality.com/possibilities for more information about changing the world one person at a time starting with you.