Friday: Anger and Fear

When do we get angry? It is natural to feel anger when one feels threatened or hurt. But when someone else is angry with us does that naturally mean that we have done something to threaten them or hurt them?

No it doesn’t.

Sometimes the anger that comes toward us is anger passing through the other person from another source. When they cannot handle the threat that they perceive they will often attack a safer target in order to release the tensions of anger.

Also, when we think we are angry at another specific person does it mean that they have done something to threaten them or hurt them?

No it doesn’t.

Empaths and intuitives often have trouble with negative emotions until they learn to differentiate the anger that they feel as either their own real anger or something that they are picking up from another person. Does an empath have to own every emotion that they feel?

No they don’t.

All of us whether aware of it or not are born with a certain amount of psychic ability. Often what we are processing and thinking of as anger is not a direct or overt thought. It can often be that we pick up emotional energies from others and even from the universe. When energy shifts happen as with the current Mars Jupiter opposition there is an exponential rising of energies which can manifest in several ways: anger, passion, spiritual zeal, righteous indignation and so forth. How we use these energies is up to us. Do we have to act upon these feelings and energies?

No we do not.

We must not however ignore them. It is in the times of shifting energies that it is important to become still and become a witness to our own processes. The logical mind needs to observe and control the reactions of the emotional mind. First, look and see if the perceived threat or hurt is real. Is someone really going to cause us harm? Or, is that person actually feeling hurt right now and striking back at us like a wounded soul with no way to show their pain except anger? Can we change the way another person feels?

No we cannot.

We can control how we respond. Learning to be detached when we feel like we are attacked is extremely difficult. It takes years of training and learning meditative stillness. And even the most spiritual person will have times when they cannot not respond to the energies of anger coming from another person. I remember my father used to say that Christ said to turn the other cheek, but he did not say what we were to do if we were slapped again after we turned the other cheek. He would wink and smile and then add, sometimes you just have to fight back. Do we have a choice about how we react?

Yes we do.

Will it change how the other person is acting? Maybe or maybe not. Eventually we must all learn that the only person we will ever really control is self. I know we have read and heard this statement over and over again. But maybe it is time to hear it again.

Today, let us choose to turn away from anger and go to that quiet space in our spirit where peace exists and draw it forth into a brand new day.